Dear love,
We can love without desire; we can desire without love. In the best-case scenario, we have both at the same time. It is weird and complex sometimes; it is mind blowing and crazy on some days. I’ve gotten really good at being alone, that doesn’t mean that I don’t cry when I feel lonely. It is something that will never go away, or at least that’s what I fear. Which isn’t a bad thing, because it is one of those things that shows me that I’m human. But, as much as I wish that love finds every single person (in whichever way), I truly believe that you have to be good alone first. This just to ensure that you strengthen one another and that you are not dependent on each other. Cause that relationship would be doomed and toxic from the start.
Love comes in so many different forms, but you will only see them if you open yourself to them. The love I have for music is so different from the love I have for books, but it doesn’t make it less valuable. My love for books came later in life than my love for music, same thing, it doesn’t make it less valuable. There is so much to love out there, even though it is hard to see sometimes!
I’m not even only talking about the love one person feels to another. Let me give you an example. While I’m writing this it is Sunday night and this should be up on Monday morning. I’m usually pretty good at managing my time, but these last couple of days have been insane with so many things I needed to do in so many different parts of my life. Especially when the year comes to an end, it feels like there is so much that still needs to be done before the holidays are here and the new year starts. I was always on the go, always “on” these past couple of days and even though it took so much energy out of me without having one minute to rest (or at least that’s how it feels) I loved all of it. I love giving back to the people in my life, spending time with them, while also being conscious and thinking about myself.
I only now have a little bit of time to write this, but I am content with it because I know that I spent my time well and that I loved what I did. A couple of years ago I would’ve been so so stressed out, but now I know that it is okay, because I did thing that were beneficial to me in different ways. I lived, and that is so important.
You can only learn how to love by loving. No matter if it is about other people, things or moments. It doesn’t always work but most of the time I truly believe that loving and love itself is worth all the heartache that it puts you through at different points in your life. Loving is a true adventure, it will give you roads to walk on that you never thought you would go, it will give you possibilities you never thought you could have and it will give you memories you thought that you could only dream of. And love is not a volunteer thing, it is needed to survive. Whoever needs this reminder today, you can never lose while loving (even though it might not feel like that sometimes), but you can only lose if you’re holding back.
Many people will experience the feeling of love in many different ways and for many different people, things or moments, but only a few will be able to really enjoy it, only a few are vulnerable enough to let it in. With that comes the fact that love is always a choice, it is a choice that you make from moment to moment, from day to day.
So, maybe start your week today with choosing love and choosing to love, because there is not much you can lose, but so much you can gain!
All my love,
Anna
Dear Anna,
Again you took a very important subject to write about.
Ofcourse many people have been writing about this subject. But it is very interesting and moving to read what you think about this topic. It is not easy to do, I can tell you that. So again I take a deep bow to make a great compliment that you had the courage to write about “love”. And you’re quite right thart everyone make choices in his/her life, but the most difficult part is to act and live with these. And no one is there to do it for you!
Best wishes,
Ed.