A love letter to fear

 

Dear fear,

 

Unfortunately, for some people you rule their life. They might not even acknowledge it, but it is most definitely true. However, the moment we realise that fear is a big part of what rules our daily life we can do something about it, we can work on it and we can change it. One of the problems with fear is that it makes that you and your thoughts start to spiral. Maybe fear is also part of what keeps us grounded, maybe it is part of what keeps us connected with our own reality.

 

Always remember, the fear you have if you for example want to do something is temporary, but the regret you feel if you don’t do it will probably last forever. There is something so beautiful about fear. You let yourself feel the fear you have for a certain thing, but it is also a sign that you are growing in every single one of those moments. You are growing the moment you feel the fear, but especially in the moments where you overcome that said fear.

 

It is also very important that you realise what exactly you are fearful of. Is it really the fear of a certain something or a certain task you have to do? Or is it more the fear you have for, for example, failing at a certain something. These are two completely different things and the ways in which you can deal with them are different as well. If it is the ‘thing’ that scares you, it might just be a sign that you can’t get it out of your head and that you should try to go for it. The moment you start running towards your fears is the moment in which your fears will run away. If we don’t run towards them, if we don’t face them, they will become our own limitations.

 

It is though, because it sometimes seems as if the fear, anxiety and hardship come easier than things like happiness and kindness. Most of the time we just don’t recognize the things that we view as positive so easily, unlike the things that we, at least at first, view as negative when they come our way. Fears don’t know your strengths. However, it is always up to you how you use your strengths and before you can use them you have to know them.

 

I feel as if we often confuse something being hard to do with it being impossible to do. Facing your fears can be hard, but it is definitely not impossible. Fear of the future, fear of a repetition of the past, whatever it is, it shouldn’t hold you back from living your life to the fullest.

 

Fears stop your dreams, because a head that is constant thinking and full with fears has no room for dreams. And I haven’t even talked about the fact that we often turn the fears into something way bigger than they actually are when they are circulating in our head. We keep overthinking and a little thought turns into a big one that we are unable to wrap our head around.

 

So, fear, the older I get the more I acknowledge that facing you is always rewarding in the end. So that’s what I’ll try to do while growing as a person for the rest of my life.

 

All my love,

 

Anna