A love letter to being unique

 

Dear being unique,

 

David Bowie once said “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return”. To me you don’t have to be perfect to be loved, but you need to be you. And being you means being unique. I hear you thinking, but that is such a cliché thing to say and who even believes that but I can tell you from my own experience that it is most definitely true.

 

Two years ago, I was in the middle of one of the lowest phases in my life and little did I know that it would take me a long long time to get up again, but I did and I’m growing with that every day. It felt like on one hand the change happened so slow that I couldn’t see it and on the other hand so much change, broken trust and just realising that some people in my life always made me feel like I was the problem, like I could never be enough crushed me so fast that it broke me.

 

It might feel like nothing changes when you look at your healing process day by day, but when you look back after a longer period of time, you’ll see that everything is different.

 

There was one moment that specifically changed my mindset drastically. One night I couldn’t see the world anymore, I couldn’t see my way, I felt alone and let down even when I knew that there are many people around me that care about me sometimes the ones that hurt you are unfortunately more prominent. And then it just hit me, I thought “you already feel like you are at one of the lowest points you can be so why not try it with being unapologetically yourself”.

 

Some things that weigh you down is weight that is not yours to carry. You are allowed to let go, you are allowed to speak up for yourself and you are allowed to surround yourself only with the people who really care about you. I tried to be me without thinking that something I did or said would be too much, too cliché, too weird or too whatever really. I allowed myself to really dream and to work towards those dreams with the goals I set for myself.

 

We often wait for a sign to do or say something, we often wait for the “perfect” moment while knowing damn well that that said “perfect” moment will never come. But there is one thing you should realise, you wanting a sign or desperately waiting for that “perfect” moment is already telling you something, that is already a sign.

 

Comparison destroys personalities and is completely unnecessary because you are unique and because no one has exactly your story. Your story is just as unique as you are, it is different and not worthy of comparison because it is beautiful the way it is. I’m still learning, growing and healing like we all are, I think. But please remember to not forget to have a good time, because life is precious and your uniqueness and story makes it worth it to enjoy every little thing.

 

Honestly, the more you start to like yourself and be yourself, the less you are like anyone else and that makes you unique and perfect the way you are. You are allowed to have doubts and struggles but don’t lose sight of who you really are.

 

All my love,

 

Anna